Parents pass on lessons learned from their life experiences, and try to impart wisdom about a spectrum of issues to their kids. I remember when my mom showed me how to care for my skin (my first cleanser was good old fashioned Noxzema!), and explained to me the importance of a good moisturizer. Her love and wisdom helped me to appreciate not only my physical appearance but also encouraged me to focus on internal beauty (as cheesy as that may sound).
It can be hard to be kid these days, and just as hard as a parent, sister, or mentor to know what to say. So today we have 7 key lessons about beauty to share with your daughter, niece, sister, or any young female you care about.
- Begin a skin-care regimen early and stick to it! Skin type will determine the regimen and products that will work best. Choose natural and safe cleansers, toners, and moisturizers when possible. Look at the Environmental Working Group’s Skin Deep Cosmetic Database to find safe alternatives. Usually a good skin-care starting point is a gentle cleanser and moisturizer in the morning and before bed.
- Put off shaving and waxing as long as possible. This can be hard to do, especially if other girls around you are starting to shave (or even wax), but once you start shaving you can’t stop—and you will grow tired of having to shave everyday! The hair will grow thicker and darker. Please don’t shave arms or facial hair!
- Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize. Moisturizing is important for keeping skin healthy and preventing signs of aging (like wrinkles, lines, and spots). Starting early is key to keeping your skin looking young. Again choose a moisturizer that is safe and natural with an SPF.
- Wear sunscreen and skip the tanning bed. This relates to lesson # 3, but it is important enough to be a separate lesson. Sun damage and skin cancer are real dangers if you aren’t wearing a facial moisturizer with an SPF and if you aren’t wearing sunscreen when you are outdoors for more than 15 minutes. And tanning beds are just a bad idea, young girls (early 20’s) are developing skin cancer from excessive tanning. Learn to appreciate your natural skin color and your beauty will be longer lasting!
- Use makeup sparingly and choose safe cosmetics. When you are young it’s fun to play with makeup and explore different looks, but it is important to learn that too much makeup can look bad and isn’t good for your skin. Constant tugging at your skin, or wearing lots of mascara or false lashes can damage the goods you were born with! So wear makeup, but not too much—maybe a little bit of eyeshadow or mascara, a tinted moisturizer, and lip tint? Again look at the Environmental Working Group’s Skin Deep Cosmetic Database to find safe cosmetics.
- What you put in your body is as important as what you put on it. Eat a variety of healthy fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and good fats for healthy skin, hair, and physique.Drinking lots of water is essential for keeping your skin hydrated and looking fresh. Avoid too much caffeine, sugary drinks, and fast food. Your young metabolism may not mind soda and fries, but your body (and skin) will feel it later.
- Focus on your inner beauty, and the outer beauty really will follow. This is a hard lesson to hear, especially when the pressure is on from peers to look a certain way. But kind, funny, and happy people really are more attractive and more popular. Audrey Hepburn spoke some great words on the matter (and she was both beautiful and kind):
“For attractive lips speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed; never throw out anyone.
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you’ll find one at the end of each of your arms.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”
Share these lessons for beauty with a special young lady in your life. And if you want a fun way to share these lessons on beauty, style, and fashion think about bringing your daughter, sister, best friend, or niece into a salon for a makeup lesson or manicure. Some salons cater to younger crowds for a memorable time. If you are in the Bay Area, Y&L Style Bar loves to have little girls come in for makeovers and beauty lessons. We even feature mineral makeup and goodies for younger girls!
Do you have any beauty lessons you have shared with your daughter, sister, niece, or friend? We’d love to add it to the list!